Ceremonies are a way for families to show their love for their loved one and a way for those left behind to begin the healing process. We are here to personalize each service as each family is unique in its wishes. Please look under the "Merchandise" tab for information regarding urns, urn vaults, and keepsake jewelry.
Traditional Cremation Service
- Traditional Cremation Service refers to cremation that takes place after viewing and the funeral service and is much like a casket funeral. The body of the deceased, placed in a specially-selected cremation container or a ceremonial casket, is the focal point of the service. A visitation can take place prior to the funeral service and the cycle is completed with the cremation rather than a traditional burial after the service. If the cremated remains will be laid to rest in a cemetery, a public or private committal service may be held.
Celebration of Life/Remembrance Service
-Memorial Service, Celebration of Life, or Remembrance Service refers to services conducted after the cremation takes place and without viewing. This service can occur at any time after the cremation process. The urn can be on display at the service, which can take place in a church, hall, funeral home chapel, or another venue.
Direct Cremation
The term direct cremation is used when cremation takes place shortly after death without viewing or any services. The funeral home will transport the deceased from the place of death to the crematory or to the funeral home and then the crematory, depending on the situation. The funeral home will handle all the documentation and transportation required. Then, the cremated remains are returned to your family in a temporary urn. You can then decide to scatter, bury, or retain the cremated remains in an urn, keepsake urn or cremation jewelry.
May 2020:
For the past few years, we have shared information regarding the burial of cremated remains (also known as cremains). We encourage families to discuss details of their final disposition and do what is necessary to protect the cremated remains of their loved ones.
Funeral traditions have changed over the years. As cremation has become more popular, it has posed new challenges not faced with the more “traditional” casket funerals. Obviously, the movement and burial of caskets require different planning and equipment than is needed for urns.
We have seen these challenges first-hand in Spink County. Please take a moment to read through these. Your understanding and compliance may help many future generations of your family.
-Mobility:
An urn of ashes is much easier to transport long distances than a casket. We receive cremains regularly from all over the country. Right now, the United States Postal Service is the only delivery system to handle cremains and does require specific packaging. However, it is also easy for a family to transport their loved one’s cremains in a private vehicle or by shipping them in the mail to a local friend or relative.
-Burial:
Here is where we are still encountering many problems. We continue to be contacted by local cemetery sextons after they have discovered cremains being buried by family in a “private, family get together” or they accidentally learn of it after-the-fact. Families are choosing not to notify the cemetery sexton for multiple reasons. However, if the sexton is not notified, cemetery records will not be accurate and may cause problems in the future:
- Sextons are responsible for marking graves for the gravediggers who are hired to dig graves. The gravedigger relies on the sexton for marking the grave accurately before they dig, and sextons rely on accurate records to instruct the gravediggers appropriately. When individuals are not working with the cemetery’s sexton, there could be serious issues in the future:
- Each cemetery has guidelines on how many urns may be buried with a casket or multiple urns in an individual grave.
- If the sexton is unaware of a cremains burial (with or without an urn), the gravedigger may unintentionally dig up or do damage to an urn or the actual cremains already in the grave. The sextons are trying to keep detailed records of how many urns are in a grave and their position within that grave.
- If your loved one already has a headstone in a cemetery, but will not be physically buried there, please notify the sexton so the record can show no physical burial where there is a headstone. It will save confusion in the future.
- Please note that more and more cemeteries are requiring urn vaults for burial. There are a variety of vaults available, but the purpose is the same – to protect your loved one’s ashes. Your loved one’s cremains are placed in the vault, and the vault is sealed prior to burial.
-Genealogy
- If a person is buried without any documentation, there is a good chance that the next generations will not know the final resting place of that family member.
- As more and more cemeteries make the transition to computerized programs for burial records, if a loved one’s burial has not been documented with the sexton, there will be no record online either.
- The example we refer to most is a call we received a few years ago from a family in California. They were looking for their “Aunt Martha.” They thought another family member brought Aunt Martha’s urn with her cremains to a local cemetery for burial and wanted us to confirm that. However, the cremains were not shipped to the funeral home, the sexton had no record of “Aunt Martha,” and no documentation was ever filed to document the final resting place with the sexton, the county, or the state. To this day, “Aunt Martha” is still missing because her family cannot find anyone who remembers what happened. The family member who supposedly transported “Aunt Martha” has since passed away. In fact, they now believe “Aunt Martha’s” ashes may have been in her favorite teapot instead of a traditional urn, and there is a chance that “Aunt Martha” may have been unintentionally thrown away when the family cleaned the apartment out. This family may never know what became of “Aunt Martha."
-Headstones
When we sell a headstone to a family, we rely on the sextons to mark each grave. They will flag each grave as needed, which tells the setters exactly where to place a headstone, which does require some digging. If no one knows that someone’s ashes have been buried there, damage may occur to an urn, or as we’ve unfortunately seen, ashes disturbed or discarded because they were buried in a plastic bag without the sexton’s knowledge.
-Documentation
- Documentation is required to properly register a burial.
- It starts with the local cemetery sexton, as discussed above.
- After the sexton has signed it, the burial permit also needs to be filed with the county where burial occurs.
- Finally, the burial is then registered with the state.
- To improve our records of final disposition, we have implemented the following at the funeral home:
- We complete a “receipt” document for cremains in our care.
- We complete this document with burial information when we handle the burial, and this documentation remains with the individual’s file in a fireproof cabinet.
- When a family takes their loved one from our care, we have them sign the receipt, and only the person who signed the contract can remove their loved one from the funeral home unless they give authorization otherwise. We make a copy of their driver’s license to put on file as well.
- We include the family’s intention for final disposition. For example, we make a note on the receipt that as of that date and time, the family indicated that their loved one would be “scattered in the Black Hills in the summer of 2020” or “committal service and burial on June 23, 2020.” If the family changes their mind after they leave, of course, we only have on record what their intention was that day.
We encourage each family to protect their loved ones. Please take the time to contact the sexton of the cemetery, and follow the regulations in place at each cemetery. Please allow the cemetery sextons (most of whom are volunteers) to keep accurate records for your family in the future. If you would like to assist further, we know that donations are greatly appreciated for the expensive upkeep of these cemeteries where your loved ones have been laid to rest.
Please help us, the sextons, and the gravediggers help your family for years to come. If you would like more information, please do not hesitate to contact us at the funeral home (605-472-2444).
The following sextons are those we work with the most, and with their permission, have allowed us to publish their contact information:
CEMETERY LOCATION NAME OF CEMETERY SEXTON NAME SEXTON PHONE #
Ashton Ashton Robert Oberfoell 605-380-5597
Athol Athol Deb Christensen 605-472-3708
Athol St. Mary’s Catholic Robert Woodring 605-460-2853
Burdette Burdette Dan Bottum 605-450-0497
Conde St. John’s Tim Van Hatten 605-382-5816
Doland Doland Joseph Remily 605-450-0133
Frankfort Mt. Hope Alan Johnson 605-472-1741
Frankfort St. Ann’s Catholic Robert Knox 605-460-2282
Mellette Calvary Greg Morgan 605-887-3291
Mellette Mellette Craig Oberle 605-380-2535
Miller St. Ann’s Catholic Roger Zens 605-354-2071
Northville Fairview Lyle Peterson 605-887-3522
Redfield Greenlawn City of Redfield 605-472-4550
Redfield St. Bernard’s Catholic Kelly Hyke 605-472-2444
Tulare Garfield Ted Price 605-596-4315
Tulare Graceland Loren Marzahn 605-460-2265
Tulare St. John’s Wayne Binger 605-450-0255
Tulare Tulare Ted Price 605-596-4315
Turton St. Joseph’s Catholic Jim Becker 605-897-7636
Zell St. Mary’s Catholic Jerome Zens 605-450-0236
We thank all sextons and gravediggers for their hard work, attention to detail, and willingness to help us serve families with professionalism and compassion. And, we thank families in advance for assisting the cemetery sextons in keeping accurate records.
Kelly and Bonnie Hyke
